For many, the holidays are a sacred time of the year. Families get matching pajamas, plan holiday parties, and spread good cheer all around. The holidays are usually a time for people to try to forget their worries and be thankful for the things that they have. Negative things “are not supposed to happen” during the holiday season.
Sadly, marital problems and the threat of divorce are something that don’t have a time limit when it comes to the holidays. Here are some of our biggest tips for approaching divorce during the holidays, which are a very emotionally taxing time of the year.
It is Okay to File During the Holidays
Despite timing, divorce is always going to hurt. If filing for divorce is something that is necessary or that you and your spouse have agreed upon, then putting it off for the holiday’s sake is not a great decision to make. Much like staying together for the kids, staying together during the holidays can taint your current holiday memories because of the struggle you and your spouse may have had holding the façade together.
Although this is considered a time to be your best self, don’t let your best self be a projected image on a Facebook post or holiday card. Live for who you need to be, and trust that your family and friends will be there for you in the end.
Approach Divorce During the Holidays with Tact
By working with a trusted family law attorney, you will be coached on the steps that need to be taken when approaching a divorce during the holidays. Remember, that this is not a competition to see who can wait out a divorce the longest, but is an opportunity to be the first to walk away from a negative situation with tact.
Whether your divorce is a contested divorce or an uncontested divorce, you will need the help of your legal counsel to help you get through the holidays as well as filing all of the necessary documents to make sure that your divorce is finalized in a length of time that suits your needs.
Consider Next Holiday a Gift
After the dust has settled and your divorce has been finalized, take the time to start thinking about the upcoming holidays as a gift that represents your new normal. This is now a time for you to make new traditions and enjoy the memories of holidays to come. Remember, your divorce is not the end of happiness, but is a step towards a new happiness in tomorrow.
Marx, Altman & Johnson will Help You End the Waiting Game
Even if you put off your divorce for this holiday season, there is another on the horizon, and another holiday or birthday after that. Divorce hurts, and the best thing that you can do is honor your family by putting your divorce in the hands of a firm that knows how to handle cases of all types. If you need to make plans for divorce during the holidays or come to a child custody agreement, give us a call today to find out more about our services.