During a divorce involving co-parenting strategies, many decisions will have to be made about how your children are to be raised going between households. One of the biggest issues that can arise is technology use with either parent.
While some families may have no problems with children freely using technology, others may find that different schedules can result in conflict. Don’t let you or your soon-to-be-ex become the “bad guy” because you have technology limitations in place. Try out some of these helpful tips for creating a family tech plan that works for everyone involved.
Make Sure Your Tech Plan is Unified
Independent rules within each parent’s home can quickly become a nightmare for both parties. Even if your agreed divorce has bred some contempt between you and your ex, don’t let your emotions allow your child’s cell-phone and screen time to go into uncomfortable territory.
Take some time to communicate with your ex and realize that having a unified technology plan will help keep the tension low between parents and children. Avoid the dreaded “At (insert ex-spouse) house I can use my phone all I want,” phrase that can quickly drag up negative feelings.
When you keep your rules unified and set limitations that work for both households you’ll quickly find that your child will benefit from the unity in their new family situation.
Virtual Visitation Rights
Negotiating a well-crafted technology plan can even help you stay in touch with your children when you aren’t the parent with sole custody. Creating a plan that grants you the ability to reach out via cell phones, video chat, and social media can:
- Strengthen your bond with your children
- Help keep you in the loop with their care
- Makes visitation arrangements easier for troubled couples.
While nothing can beat the power of a face-to-face reunion, a technology plan that involves virtual visitation can be a real boon for parents who live extensive distances away from each other.
Always Put Child Safety First
No matter what, you number one expectation when crafting a technology plan is to keep your child safe. Some ways that parents can ensure their child’s safety even when their children are with an ex-spouse include:
- Knowledge of all device passwords;
- Antivirus software;
- Set parental controls (based on guidelines you’ve both agreed on); and
- A discussion with your children about the risks of irresponsible internet usage.
Don’t Be Afraid of Different Disciplinary Action
Your tech plan isn’t always going to go smoothly. Children often unknowingly or knowingly break a parent’s rules. Once again, if you have a discussion with your ex-spouse about the terms of discipline within each home, there is a reduced chance of co-parenting conflict when disciplinary needs arise.
Note that this doesn’t mean the disciplinary actions need to be the same. You may have to agree to disagree on how things are handled. However, as long as you both understand and do your best to respect the rules of each parent, you’ll find that these small negotiations will lead to a well-adjusted child.
Craft a Co-Parenting Strategy With Marx, Altman & Johnson
If your divorce involves making decisions involving your children, a co-parenting strategy is a great option to look into. While tensions may be high during this time in your lives, you may need some professional counsel during negotiations of a co-parenting plan. Marx, Altman & Johnson is a firm of family law attorneys that can help you build a brighter future for your family after a divorce. Contact us today to schedule your free consultation.