A child-centered divorce is a divorce in which both parents put the needs of the children first and prioritize the care and understanding of how the children feel during this difficult process. While many families make their divorce more difficult and even contest their divorce, causing additional stress on the family during the separation, parents who choose an agreed divorce make the situation easier on the children and typically have a better relationship in the future.
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The Goal of a Child-Centered Divorce
The goal of a child-centered divorce is always to provide the best possible life for the children who affected by their parents’ separation. The concept recognizes that childhood is both a delicate and finite time period and the feelings and emotions of the children should be first priority during a divorce. Both homes moving forward should focus on providing the best quality life despite any personal or financial costs that occur during the divorce arrangement.
A child-centered divorce assumes that both parents are willing to ensure that their children continue to have the life that they deserve. In order to accomplish this difficult task, parents can use creative settlement to afford their children the extracurricular activities, travel opportunities, and lifestyle that enjoyed in a one-house intact family. Transferring stock shares or funds from a retirement account are not as difficult as saying no to horseback riding lessons or private school.
The Emotional Challenge of Child-Centered Divorce
For many parents, the process of going through a child-centered divorce is emotionally challenging. It’s easy for anger or other strong feelings toward an ex-spouse to eclipse love for a child or children.
In these moments, however, it’s important to remember the initial impetus for a child-centered divorce. Childhood is precious, and even in the midst of a divorce, parents can seek to provide the best childhood possible for their children.
Sometimes in these moments, it can help to have a picture of one’s children during a happy moment to reference. A visual aid goes a long way toward reminding parents that no matter how strong anger toward an ex might be, love for a child can persevere.
The Benefits of a Child-Centered Divorce
The benefits of a child-centered divorce are a better life for the child. When this is the goal of two divorcing parents and it is executed well, the result is as seamless a transition as possible to a new life. And, that new life is one where life in each parent’s home is the same or similar quality.